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December 4, 2012 / brockbruce

Man Up?

After Saturday’s murder/suicide by KC Chiefs football player Jovan Belcher that left he and his girlfriend, who was the mother of his 3 month old girl, dead, I posted some links on Facebook dealing with masculinity and violence against women. I wanted to put those links here for easier access. Some in the media have blamed our “masculine culture” for this act, I wanted to rebut the claims that violence against women is masculine. This is not a post to address the emotional and mental state of Belcher. It is obvious that he was battling many demons and we should pray for the families that were devastated by this tragedy..

Violence against women is sin. Biblical masculinity doesn’t leave room for such acts. Biblical masculinity is about men taking responsibility for themselves, their wives and children (if they are married) and their church. Biblical masculinity isn’t about being the roughest or the toughest. Biblical masculinity isn’t about being the weakest either. Jesus was masculine. Jesus was humble and strong, a servant and a leader. Biblical masculinity as seen in Christ Jesus is self-sacrificial. Paul makes the case in Ephesians 5 that biblical masculinity imitates Jesus. He says,

[25] Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, [26] that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, [27] so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. [28] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. [29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, [30] because we are members of his body.

Paul also reminds Titus that men should be self-controlled, loving and faithful.

How masculinity is demonstrated is cultural (ie, men in America don’t wear kilts because, well you know). But the basic understanding of Biblical Masculinity is universal (ie. men are to take responsibility and lead spiritually).

Here are a few links that you may find interesting or even beneficial.

A Hard Look at Violence Against Women (The Resurgence)

Lecrae On The Absence Of Fathers In World (The Resurgence)

CNN Blames Culture of “Manliness” For Belcher Murder/Suicide (Breit Bart)

What Is Sexual Assalt Series (The Resurgence)

A Month of Biblical Manhood (Mars Hill Church)

What’s Wrong With A Boy Who Wears A Dress (Church and Culture)

1 Peter 3:7 in Multiple Translations  In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard. (NLT)


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